Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Tuesdays With Terri & Two New Glasswork Pieces

Good Morning!  It's Tuesday here in Bonaire, and time for another post.  Sometimes I wish my life were more Glamorous so I'd have more to share with y'all.  Truth is, my day to day is far from "celebrity status."  But some days "are" better than others.  And some are even worth photographing.  Ha ha
 
These days I've been spending a lot of time at my new Solder Station.  The remainder of what's left over, I spend caring for my mama and Dreaming of New Bottle Designs.
Actually, my mama mostly sits beside me during the course of my day.  For what seems like the shortest stretch of time, she appears very amused by the solder process and just calmly folds her hands and watches me until losing interest.  When that happens..well I suppose it's okay to share with y'all what she does next.

Her newest Alzheimer Trick is "Stacking Things".  It started with Books..and moved on to anything that strikes her fancy throughout the house.  One day while I was soldering I saw mama get up and I was right in the middle of finishing an important step and had to concentrate, so I kept my mind on my work and on Mama at the same time.

Next thing I hear is the sounds of clanging and banging from the kitchen.  I head in and find Mama removing every single item off one set of the kitchen counters..to the other side of the kitchen.  I asked her what she was doing and she calmly said she needed space to cook.  Yeah..like getting near a stove is ever gonna happen in this house!
People, I could tell you Alzheimer Stories that would fry your hair or make you laugh so hard you'd cry.  I've found if I don't find the humor in it all..I would be forced to join Mama in the dark place this dreadful disease has taken her to.
 
Sometimes I can't resist and have to take a photograph of something hilarious Mama has done.  I email them to my brother and sisters so they can try and relate to the type day I've had.  So that when any of them even dare to call "needing me" for one thing or another, they know by the pictures of the day if I have anything left over to give them.
I have befriended another fellow artist who is currently dealing with "both" her parents sinking into this dreadful disease, and she has all but given up painting for now.  I went through that phase too.  Couldn't concentrate long enough to hold a brush..let alone compose a canvas.
Sometimes at the end of my day, I wonder if ever I were given the opportunity to again be chosen to care for Mama during this most troubling time of her life..would I say "Yes?"
Then the answer comes so easy to me.  OF COURSE YOU WOULD!  Because one day, I'll walk through my door and my mama will no longer be here.  

Have a Wonderful Tuesday Everybody,  

9 comments:

Flea Market Trixie said...

Terri, your mother is so lucky to have such a wonderful caring daughter looking after her. I can't imagine how hard it is watching someone you love go through this. You always amaze me :)

sissie said...

Hi Terri,
My Mom suffered from dementia in her last year. Not as bad as Alz.
but bad.
I think you are such a wonderful daughter to care for your Mother and love her so.

I do love you bottles, they are so lovely.

hugs and blessings

Sissie

sjmcdowell said...

Hi Terri,

I love your post about you and your Mom. I also live here in Georgia and I also take care of my 90 year old Mom. She is almost deaf now and so with writing notes and speaking very loudly in her ear we somehow get through.
Oh yes and I love Dragonflies
very much!!

Please come over to my blog sometime and visit me.
sjmcdowell.blogspot.com

Hugs and Smiles,

Susan
Art of Mine

Marydon said...

G'morn, sweet friend ~ I have teary eyes from this write, for sure. We have walked thru partially of what you are presently going thru. My heart goes out to you in deep love, knowing how your days are so selflessly giving to your Mother.

The answer is YES, you would, I would & countless others would never not be there for their parents.

Angel blessings & hugs are upon you, sweet friend. Hugs for Mother, too, please.

Have a beautiful summer day...
TTFN ~ Hugs. Marydon

patty said...

Wow, Terri, you have shared so much of your life and yourself here in this post. It's a very bittersweet phase of life that you are going through with your dear Mama. It sounds like you have been adjusting things to provide the care that she needs and still be able to keep your creative expression intact. What a blessing you are to her! So many do not have a devoted family member like you to provide that loving care. I think you should consider writing a book about your experiences - both the sad, the happy and the humorous!! Happy Summer to you - hope it has cooled off some.

Diana by Lagoa Design Studio said...

Hi darling Terri,
I'm back and try to start a "normal" life.
I'm reading and thinking... Terri you are so special person! Your care, wisdom and talent are invaluable.

Much Love and Hugs,
Diana
www.lagoadesigns.com

Kolleen said...

Terri,

You are such a special soul....an angel walking among us here.

How did i miss this post??? Your mama is so lucky to have you taking care of her and being there for her. Isn't it funny how life comes full circle??

You inspire me and your latest creations are absolutely stunning. WOW!

sending you a big squeeze and blankets of love to cover you when you need it most
xxoo
k

Pat @ Mille Fiori Favoriti said...

Terri this brought tears to my eyes. I am in a similar situation with my Mom. We have to cherish each day and keep up our sense of humor and compassion.

I think I came by for a visit to your blog recently but I forgot to enter the word verification after I wrote my comment and it didn't post on your blog. I've keep forgetting to wait for the page to re-open to enter it. So sorry!

Noni at The Brick Street Bungalow said...

Dear Sweet Terri, you are the kindest most loving daughter any mother could ever hope to have. This post just makes me cry at the tenderness of your love... and knowing how hard this must be for you. May God bless and hold both you and your Mom in this sometimes diffficult time. Hugs, light, and love~ Tanna